I’ll never forget my first trip to the Philippines. It was the first time in my life that I felt as though beautiful women were actually interested in dating me. On Tinder, to my surprise, within a few days of landing in the country I had hundreds of matches with compatible and gorgeous women. And on my very first day in the country I went to dinner with the most beautiful woman I had ever been on a date with.
Since then, I have spent significant amounts of time dating in Thailand, Colombia, and Vietnam, along with visiting many other countries for shorter periods of time. And the same holds true – dating abroad is better, easier, and funner for Western men. By the way, the term “Western men” just refers to men that come from the US, Canada, UK, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand. There are some other countries but you get the point.
My experience dating internationally is contrasted by how difficult my struggles were in my home country of the United States. Although I was seemingly doing well in life, following the “American dream” – a college degree, a good paying job in Information Technology, and my own apartment – I still felt invisible to American women. On dating apps I would get very few matches. It was hard to find dates that would actually show up. Women that I was attracted to wanted nothing to do with me. But, fortunately, I stumbled upon the strategy that would change my life forever…dating abroad.
A Small Learning From My High School Days
During my high school years (2003-2006) we once had a foreign exchange student named Max from Germany that spent a semester at my high school in South Carolina. On most accounts, Max and I were very similar. We were similar in looks, in clothing style, in athletic ability, and we shared many of the same classes. However, Max was having a very different high school dating experience than I was having. The hottest women at my school were drooling over Max.
Why? Because he carried the allure of being from a far away place – Germany. The girls giggled when he walked in the hallway. They blushed when he spoke with his German accent. They passed him love letters in class. And Max being my friend, told me that it was difficult for him to pick a girlfriend because he could have anyone he wanted. Unfortunately, I was having quite the opposite experience.
What I learned from this experience, is that women often like men that come from far away places. It is the same concept that sells millions of romance novels each year. A foreign, rich man comes from afar and sweeps a woman off her feet. You can have the same experience too, if you travel abroad to find girlfriends. You become the novelty, the rarity that women are intrigued by.
Men Are Truly Valued Overseas
Another big takeaway from my experiences dating internationally is that good, quality men are truly valued. I’ve had many women tell me that I am a “good man.” When I probed further, they told me that Western men tend to be more trustworthy, loyal, and committed in relationships when compared to men of their home country. Not to tarnish the reputation of local men and every person should be viewed individually, but some women that I have dated have had bad experiences dating men from their own culture.
For example, various “hot spot” countries like Colombia and the Philippines, often have high rates of single mothers. Colombia has 84% of children born to single mothers. And the Philippines, for example, has over 15 million single mothers. Still, some of the strongest and highest character men I have met have been from these countries but the statistics are staggering. The “machismo” culture of “hit it and quit it” is very common.
In my anecdotal experience, whether true or false, Western men tend to have a reputation to be more responsible and loyal, less likely for domestic abuse, and less likely to abandon a child that they are the father to.
Your Perceived Financial Value
It would be naive to think a man’s finances don’t play a big role in dating overseas. Whether true or false, as a Westerner traveling abroad, local people assume that you have good finances, or at least better than they do. Albeit, I know many men “living the good life” in Southeast Asia with only a $1000 monthly Social Security. Even so, that is often several times greater than minimum wage in those countries.
People, including foreign women, assume that if you have money to travel abroad, therefore you are rich. That is not always the case, but plane tickets and hotels often cost thousands of dollars which is something that most people around the world cannot afford to do, especially in the hot spot countries of Colombia, the Philippines, and Thailand.
Age-Gap Relationships Are Normal
Another reason dating abroad is a great experience for Western men is the opportunity of age-gap relationships. This presents a unique opportunity to date a woman that is younger, sometimes even much younger, than you are. Usually these opportunities are scarce in the United States, being reserved for celebrities and the ultra-wealthy.
For example, when I was 32 years old I was in a relationship with a 21-year old gorgeous Filipina woman. It was completely culturally acceptable to walk around Cebu City while holding her hand. However, in the United States, I would certainly get some dirty looks by dating a women that was 11 years younger than me and maybe even labeled as “creepy”.
I wrote an article highlighting the most culturally acceptable age-gap relationship countries. Essentially, when you date abroad, you can have the Leonardo DiCaprio experience, dating women that are 30 years younger than you. Obviously, always follow local laws and only date women that are 18 years and up because the last thing you want is to be locked up abroad.
Depending on the country, the range of culturally acceptable age-gaps in relationships can vary. But, typically it is extremely common to see age-gap relationships between a Western man and an exotic woman that are 10-20 years different. And in the Philippines, a 30+ year age difference is commonly observed. Remember, as Stan Lee says, “With great power comes great responsibility”.
Men Have A Lot of Options Dating Abroad
Another thing Western men love about dating internationally is the number of quality options available to them in the dating market. Wherever I travel, I get a ton of matches on the my favorite international dating apps, way more than I get in the United States. For instance, I recall when I was getting 100s of matches a day when I arrived in the Philippines.
It goes beyond just online dating. When I visit shopping malls, cafes, and popular walking streets, I get noticed by lots of women overseas. Even though I am a slightly above average looking man in his 30s, I’ve had women stop me and ask for pictures!
Another reason there are more available options overseas is that I’ve found that diets are healthier overseas. Countries like the United States are having serious issues with weight gain and obesity amongst the population. In contrast, Asian and Latin American diets usually consists of healthier foods, leading to a more healthier looking population. Simply put, there are more attractive women available.
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