I’ll never forget my first trip to the Philippines. It was the first time in my life that I felt beautiful women were interested in dating me. To my surprise, within a few days of landing in the country, I had hundreds of matches with compatible and gorgeous women on Tinder. And on my very first day in the country, I went to dinner with the most beautiful woman I had ever been on a date with.
Since then, I have spent significant amounts of time dating in Thailand, Colombia, Brazil, the Dominican Republic, and Vietnam and visiting many other countries for shorter periods. And the same holds true—dating abroad is better, easier, and more fun for Western men. By the way, the term “Western men” just refers to men from the US, Canada, UK, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand. There are some other countries, but you get the point.
My experience dating internationally is contrasted by how challenging my struggles were in my home country of the United States. Although I was seemingly doing well in life, following the “American dream” – a college degree, a good-paying job in Information Technology, and my own apartment – I still felt invisible to American women. On dating apps, I would get very few matches. It was hard to find dates that would show up and not flake. Women that I was attracted to wanted nothing to do with me. But fortunately, I stumbled upon the strategy that would change my life forever…dating foreign women overseas.
Your Social Status Is Elevated Overseas
During my high school years (2003-2006), we once had a foreign exchange student named Max from Germany who spent a semester at my high school in South Carolina. On most accounts, Max and I were very similar. We were similar in looks, clothing style, and athletic ability, and we shared many of the same classes. However, Max had a very different high school dating experience than I had. The hottest women at my school were drooling over Max.
Why? Because Max carried the allure of being from a faraway place, Germany. The girls giggled when he walked in the hallway. They blushed when he spoke in his German accent. They passed him love letters in class. And Max being my friend, told me that it was difficult for him to pick a girlfriend because he could have anyone he wanted. Unfortunately, I was having quite the opposite experience.
What I learned from this experience is that women often like men who come from faraway places. It is the same concept that sells millions of romance novels each year. A foreign, rich man comes from afar and sweeps a woman off her feet. You can have the same experience too, if you travel abroad to find girlfriends. You become the novelty, the rarity that women are intrigued by.
Men Are Truly Valued Overseas
Another big takeaway from my experiences dating internationally is that good, quality men are genuinely valued. I’ve had many women tell me that I am a “good man.” When I probed further, they said that Western men tend to be more trustworthy, loyal, and committed in relationships than men in their home country. Not to tarnish the reputation of local men, and every person should be viewed individually. Still, some women that I have dated have had bad experiences dating men from their own culture.
For example, various “hot spot” countries like Colombia and the Philippines often have high rates of single mothers. Colombia has 84% of children born to single mothers, and the Philippines, for example, has over 15 million single mothers. Still, some of the strongest and most exemplary men I have met have been from these countries, but the statistics are staggering. The “machismo” culture of “hit it and quit it” is widespread.
In my anecdotal experience, whether true or false, Western men tend to have a reputation for being more responsible and loyal, less likely for domestic abuse, and less likely to abandon a child that they are the father to.
Your Perceived Financial Value
It would be naive to think a man’s finances don’t play a significant role in dating overseas. As a Westerner traveling abroad, local natives assume you have good finances, or at least better than they do. Albeit, I know many men “living the good life” in Southeast Asia with only a $1000 monthly Social Security. Even so, that is often several times greater than the minimum wage in those countries.
People, including foreign women, assume that if you have money to travel abroad, therefore you are rich. That is not always the case, but plane tickets and hotels often cost thousands of dollars, which most people around the world cannot afford to do, especially in the hot spot countries of Colombia, the Philippines, and Thailand.
Age-Gap Relationships Are Normal
Another reason dating abroad is an excellent experience for Western men is the opportunity for age-gap relationships. These relationships present a unique opportunity to date a woman who is younger, sometimes even much younger, than you are. Usually, these opportunities are scarce in the United States, reserved for celebrities and the ultra-wealthy.
For example, when I was 32, I was in a relationship with a 21-year-old gorgeous Filipina woman. Walking around Cebu City while holding her hand was completely culturally acceptable. However, in the United States, I would undoubtedly get some dirty looks by dating a woman who was 11 years younger than me and maybe even labeled as “creepy.”
I wrote an article highlighting the most culturally acceptable age-gap relationship countries. Essentially, when you date abroad, you can have the Leonardo DiCaprio experience, dating women who are 30 years younger than you. Obviously, always follow local laws and only date women who are 18 or older because the last thing you want is to be locked up abroad.
The range of culturally acceptable age gaps in relationships can vary depending on the country. However, typically, it is extremely common to see age-gap relationships between a Western man and an exotic woman who are 10-20 years different. And in the Philippines, a 30+ year age difference is commonly observed. Remember, as Stan Lee says, “With great power comes great responsibility.”
An Abundance of Beautiful Women When Dating Abroad
Another thing Western men love about dating internationally is the number of quality options available in the market. Wherever I travel, I get a ton of matches on my favorite international dating apps, way more than I get in the United States. For instance, I recall getting hundreds of matches a day when I arrived in the Philippines.
It goes beyond just online dating. When I visit shopping malls, cafes, and famous walking streets, I get noticed by many women overseas. Even though I am a slightly above-average-looking man in his 30s, I’ve had women stop me and ask for pictures!
Another reason there are more available options overseas is that I’ve found that diets are healthier overseas. Countries like the United States are having serious issues with weight gain and obesity among the population. In contrast, Asian and Latin American diets usually consist of healthier foods, leading to a more healthy-looking population. Simply put, there are more attractive women available.
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