Meeting women in Colombia can be an exciting and rewarding experience for foreign men visiting the country. While many men opt for using online dating to meet Colombian women, there is an even better way – approaching Colombian women in public using daygame or nightgame strategies.
To effectively meet Colombian women in public, employ the Indicators of Interest (IOI) method by paying attention to social cues like eye contact, smiling, flirting, and winks. Colombian women possess the knack for clearly expressing their attraction towards you. Emphasize your style and show respect for Colombian culture. Avoid cold-approaching based solely on appearance, which could make you a public annoyance. By being respectful and attentive to social cues, you can increase your chances of connecting with women in Colombia’s vibrant social scene.
In this guide, I’ll cover how to effectively approach Colombian women with success, get contact information via phone numbers or social media, and handle rejections. I’ll teach you how to dress, read signals of interest, initiate approaches politely in public places, and convert encounters into instant dates over coffee or drinks. With realistic expectations and the right attitude, you’ll be prepared to meet incredible Colombian women in public just as I have.
Also see: The Best Places to Meet Hot Colombian Women in Public
How to Dress As A Foreigner In Colombia
Placing a heavy emphasis on style is important in Colombia. The women take their public appearance, style, and physique very seriously. Therefore, when approaching Colombian women during the day or night, it’s important to dress sharp yet still casual. Avoid wearing shorts and sandals, as Colombians look at those as being sloppy. Although, shorts are tolerated if you are exercising or going to the gym.
My favorite daygame outfit in Colombia is:
- Long pants or jeans
- Plain, well-fitting t-shirts in a variety of colors like black, white, blue, green, etc.
- White leather sneakers or shoes (not dirty tennis shoes)
- Simple necklace like a rope, shell, or metalic necklace. Avoid excessive bling and gold chains.
I like to do some color blocking with my outfit – matching the shirt color to the shoes. For example wearing a black shirt with black shoes or a white shirt with white white shoes. This looks stylish without coming across overly fancy or trying too hard.
In Colombia, the key is finding that balance between sharp and casual. You want to look put together and attractive, but also not over the top. Plus, dressing too fancy or wearing expensive items such as watches, jewelry, or sunglasses could make you a target of a robbery. Make sure you aren’t wearing wrinkled clothes or anything with stains or holes. Colombian women care about the “detalles”, or details in English.
In addition to style, you may want to take a deeper dive on this topic: What Are Colombian Women Attracted To? You May Be Surprised
Approach Colombian Women Using The Indicators of Interest (IOI) Method
I found the Indicators of Interest (IOI) method to be the best way to approach women in Colombia. It became my favorite strategy after dabbling with some cold-approaching that did not go so well. The IOI method involves looking for signals that a woman is interested before you initiate your approach. Some common IOIs to look for include:
- Eye contact – If a woman holds eye contact with you, smiles, and looks away multiple times, she’s likely interested. Prolonged eye contact is a strong IOI.
- Smiling – When a woman smiles at you in passing, it’s a sign she’s open to being approached. Don’t be afraid to initiate the first smile.
- Playing with her hair – When a woman touches or plays with her hair when you’re around it can signal interest.
- Proximity – If a woman sits or stands near you even when there is space to be farther away, it shows openness.
- Finding excuses to be around you – A woman may walk by you multiple times or find other excuses to be in your vicinity if she wants you to talk to her.
The IOI method takes the guesswork out of approaching but it does take a keen awareness of your surroundings. You’ll need that anyways when you are in Colombia for safety concerns. I love it because I can easily fit it into my day without coming across as try-hard.
You can initiate contact, as well, before you do the approach. When I’m walking around the malls in Colombia, I try to wear an authentic smile, give head nods to women, and sometimes, give a small, friendly wave. You can tell right away if she is interested. If she reciprocates, you can confidently approach and start a conversation. Using this method ensures you don’t bother uninterested women and become a public nuisance.
Also see: The Complete Guide To Dating In Medellin As A Foreigner
Does cold-approach work in Colombia?
Cold-approaching is a different strategy for pick-up artists (PUA), essentially where you just approach every single woman based on her attractiveness and without any indication that she might be interested in you. Yes, it can work in Colombia but I didn’t have a very positive experience. It is a pure numbers game but is still considered culturally taboo in Colombia. Traditionally, most Colombian women meet boyfriends through their social circle and through their family, not out on the streets.
Also, women in Colombia have a serious fear when strangers approach in public. Armed robberies on the street are quite common and if you spook her because of a poorly thought out cold-approach, it will not go over well. This is just another reason I prefer the Indicators of Interest method.
They key with cold-approach in Colombia is to avoid being public nuisance. A public nuisance is someone who approaches every hot girl, regardless of the circumstances. Avoid interrupting women wearing headphones, women that are busy working on laptops, and women that are walking fast to go to work.
Also see: Flirting With Colombian Women | Top Tips For Foreigners
Daygame vs Nightgame in Medellin, Colombia
Daygame is generally the safer and easier option for meeting Colombian women in public compared to nightgame. Here’s why:
- Safety – The streets are safer during the day, with less risk of robbery, theft, or violent crime. At night, the risks increase substantially, especially if alcohol is involved. Sticking to daytime approaches reduces these risks.
- Logistics – It’s easier to progress a date along to different locations during the day. At night, Colombian women tend to be out in large groups which makes isolating the woman you want to talk to more challenging. For daygame, you can easily suggest getting coffee, ice cream, lunch etc.
- Opportunity – There are simply more women out and about during the day going about their business. You can find women in malls, parks, walking on the street, waiting for buses etc. At night, the pool of available women reduces as most stay home or go to bars in groups.
- Sobriety – Both you and the women will likely be sober during the day. At night, drinking impairs judgement on both sides which can lead to poor outcomes. Keeping things sober leads to better interactions.
- Reputation – Daygame is generally more socially acceptable than nightgame in Colombia. Nightgame has a reputation for one night stands, seedy behavior, and intoxication. Daygame is seen as classier and more genuine, and you’ll be more likely to meet a quality woman.
While nightgame is possible, daygame offers significant advantages in Colombia. By focusing your efforts during the daytime hours, you’ll maximize your opportunities while minimizing risks.
Lastly, safety should be your number one concern when meeting Colombian women, both during the day and at night. Colombia unfortunately has a high crime rate, so you need to take precautions. I can’t guarantee your safety, but I wrote an article on some strategies to lower the risk: 9 Tips For Dating Safely In Medellin From My Experience
Instant Dates in Colombia
Taking a woman from the approach to the first date on the spot is a great way to move things forward quickly in Colombia. This is known in the pick-up artist (PUA) world as an “instant date”. The key is to suggest a very low-investment activity like grabbing coffee or lunch.
For example, if you approach a woman waiting at a bus stop outside the mall, after a brief chat you can say “Tienes tiempo para un café rápido?” (Do you have time for a quick coffee?). If she agrees, walk with her to the nearest cafe nearby and continue the conversation over drinks. At the bus stop outside of Oviedo Mall, I executed this approach with perfect success while in Medellin, Colombia. There happened to be a coffee shop just 30 meters behind the bus stop and inside Oviedo mall. I opened the approach with a compliment and after a brief chat we went together for a coffee.
The instant date shows confidence and moves you smoothly from an approach to a date setting. It also gives you time to connect more deeply through conversation, whereas just getting a phone number can still lead to flaking. Avoid suggesting anything too fancy or expensive – the point is to make it easy and fun for her to say yes. Coffee, dessert, or a light lunch makes for great instant date options.
If your instant date goes well, consider setting up a proper date. Here are some good ideas: 9 Romantic Date Ideas in Medellín That’ll Be Unforgettable