You may be in the same situation I was once in—considering a trip to Medellin, Colombia, or already there and struggling to find good dates due to a lack of knowledge on how to flirt with Colombian women. My first month of dating in Colombia was challenging because I was seeking out high-quality women while navigating factors such as being a novice Spanish speaker and discovering the ideal places to meet women.
However, the big challenge I faced was not knowing how to properly flirt with Colombian women. Luckily, through first-hand experience and self-taught learning, I discovered effective techniques that I want to share with you in this guide. Having spent nine months in Medellin, I will provide valuable insights into the art of flirting as it pertains to Colombian women.
For a more general guide to flirting with foreign women, also see: 7 Ways To Flirt With Foreign Women | In-Person & Online
How Do Colombian Women Flirt?
Flirting in Colombia can be a lot of fun. Not only do Colombian women like to flirt, they are extremely good at it. Compared to Western countries, they have different approaches to flirting, but there are a few common customs to keep in mind. First, it is important to appear confident and have a positive attitude. Colombian women appreciate men who are self-assured while still showing respect.
Body language is also crucial in flirting with Colombians. Non-verbal cues such as eye contact, smiling, and light touching convey interest and attraction. Colombians place importance on body language and dress style, considering them as significant as verbal communication.
Additionally, it is helpful to learn some flirtatious phrases in Spanish, as this can show effort and interest. Using endearing words like “amorcita” (darling), “cielito” (sweetheart), and “hermosita” (beautiful) can be charming. By the way, adding “-ita” to the end of Spanish words means “little”, which adds a flirty vibe to the word.
Another common word that is specific to Colombia is “parce”, which basically means dude. Colombians make it masculine or feminine with “parcero” or “parcera”. You can take it one step further by saying “parcerita”.
Also see: The Complete Guide To Dating In Colombia As A Foreigner
How To Flirt With A Colombian Woman Online (4 Steps)
Online dating in Colombia can be a risky endeavor but it opens the possiblity of meeting a lot of women that you would never meet on the street. It also gives you the opportunity of filtering down possible dating prospects. However, be warned, dating in Colombia has serious safety concerns. While I can’t promise that you will be safe, this article provides my top safety tips that could be helpful in lowering your risks: 9 Tips For Dating Safely In Medellin From My Experience
Step 1: Know your intentions
Are you looking for a long-distance relationship with a Colombian woman? When are you going to Colombia? Are you seeking to hookup or seeking a long-term girlfriend? These will determine what type of flirting you do.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with seeking to play the field, but the key is to just be honest about your intentions. Colombian women really appreciate honesty with your intentions and many are open to different kinds of relationships.
Step 2: Keep It Light if You Are Looking For A Relationship
It’s best to stick to one compliment on her appearance. I know, it’s easy to overdo the complimenting on a Colombian woman’s looks because they are some of the most beautiful in the world.
However, giving multiple compliments about her body and appearance will lead her to think that is your primary focus. Instead steer the focus on getting to know her, interests and hobbies you may have in common, where in my experience, few men do. Then you can play, flirt, and tease her based off her interests.
Example: Since my passion is tennis, I like to joke with women about playing tennis with me. I usually tease them about not hitting me with the ball or have them make a promise not to beat me on our first day. They usually respond with a “no promises” type of response which adds a little back-and-forth spice to our conversation.
Step 3: Be Direct If You Are Just Looking For Friends
If you are only going to visit Colombia for a brief period of time, it is going to be difficult to meet a quality “Colombiana” for a long-term relationship.
However, if you just want to make new friends, go on dates, and hookup, then be direct about your intentions. Colombian women greatly appreciate honesty and they are not stupid. They know they are beautiful and they understand a man’s nature is to desire them. I think you will be surprised by how many are open to “just being friends” on your visit. Of course, Colombia can be quite dangerous in the dating market.
I’ve had cases where I’ve told a woman that I will only be in town for one week; therefore, I’m not seeking a long-term relationship at this time. Some will still be open to meeting you, and some will not. But, they will definitely be upset if you are dishonest about this.
Step 4: Take it off the dating app
When chatting on a dating app, consider switching to Instagram, Facebook, or WhatsApp after some time to verify the person’s identity and avoid potential risks in Colombia. It’s important to confirm that the individual is genuine and not a catfish, scammer, or criminal. By looking at their profiles on other platforms, you can assess the authenticity of their photos and activity history. This precautionary measure can help you build a more personal connection and ensure a safer dating experience.
Also see: Tried & Tested | Best Dating Apps To Meet Colombian Women
How To Flirt With A Colombian Woman In-Person
I wrote another article tackling the subject of meeting Colombian women in-person by using daygame and nightgame. Essentially, my favorite tactic that worked well for me there was to employ the indicators of interest (IOI) method.
Colombian women know how to flirt; they are great at it. If they are interested in you, they will give clear, strong signals of interest. These might include:
- Multiple glances in your direction
- Slightly holding eye contact longer than normal
- Smiling at you
- Twirling hair
- Proximity, purposefully standing next to you
The main thing to have awareness and recognize these signals when they are directed at you. Don’t be afraid to initiate contact. Colombian women normally wait for the man to make the move, but they will definitely try to get your attention using indicators of interest.
The way I had success flirting in Colombia, in particular, was by using some winks, small hand gestures such as a wave or thumbs up, and even playing peek-a-boo with my hands. These might sound silly, but this shows you have a lot of confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin. It worked with a high rate of success when I used these tactics after receiving indicators.
Also see: The Best Places to Meet Hot Colombian Women in Public
Common Phrases to Know
I’m not a huge fan of pickup lines over simply being genuine. However, when used correctly and with a silly demeanor, they can be an ice-breaker. Here are ten flirty phrases or pickup lines in Spanish that you can use in Colombia:
- ¿Crees en el amor a primera vista, o debería pasar otra vez? (Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?)
- Eres tan hermosa que se me olvidó mi frase de conquista. (You’re so beautiful that I forgot my pickup line.)
- ¿Tienes un mapa? Porque me he perdido en tus ojos. (Do you have a map? Because I’ve gotten lost in your eyes.)
- Si fueras un lápiz labial, seguro serías el color más bonito. (If you were a lipstick, you would definitely be the most beautiful color.)
- ¿Crees en el destino? Porque creo que nos encontramos por una razón. (Do you believe in destiny? Because I think we met for a reason.)
- ¿Tienes un nombre, o puedo llamarte mía? (Do you have a name, or can I call you mine?)
- Eres el sueño que nunca supe que tenía. (You’re the dream I never knew I had.)
- Si besarte fuera un pecado, caminaría feliz por la senda de la perdición. (If kissing you was a sin, I would happily walk the path of damnation.)
- Me encanta tu sonrisa. Iluminas todo a tu alrededor. (I love your smile. You light up everything around you.)
- Eres tan dulce que tienes que tener cuidado con la diabetes. (You’re so sweet that you have to be careful with diabetes.)
Keep in mind that using these phrases should be done with respect and in a lighthearted manner. It’s important to gauge the other person’s interest and comfort level before using flirty phrases. Good luck!