Traveling overseas can be an exhilarating adventure, especially if you aim to broaden your horizons and meet women from diverse cultures. For single Western men like myself who are interested in dating opportunities abroad, understanding whether Pickup Artist (PUA) strategies work well in foreign countries is crucial.
In this article, we will discuss the effectiveness of PUA strategies in various countries outside the Western world, based on my extensive experience as an international dating coach. By the end, you will have a comprehensive understanding of whether these tactics are helpful overseas and what adjustments might be necessary for better success.
Also, check out my in-depth PUA Guide for overseas: The Ultimate Guide To Be A Pickup Artist (PUA) Overseas.
My Experience With Pickup Overseas
One of the most significant insights from my travels is that pickup strategies work much better overseas than in my home country, the United States. In the U.S., social dynamics can be complicated, and the dating scene often comes with a lot of implicit and explicit challenges.
With the rise of independence among modern women in Western countries, the blend of masculine and feminine qualities has become more nuanced. I’ve heard American women on social media express their frustrations about why American men don’t approach them anymore. At the same time, I’ve experienced brutal rejections, humiliations, and poor attitudes from approaching women in the U.S., making me wonder, “Why even make the effort?”
In contrast, many foreign countries have social landscapes that are more conducive to PUA tactics as long as they are done in a respectful and polite manner. An essential factor contributing to this success is the curiosity and intrigue that many foreign women have toward Western men. This interest makes initial approaches smoother and increases the likelihood of positive interactions. Moreover, cultural norms in many countries actually support face-to-face interaction, making cold approaches far less awkward than they might be in the U.S.
Also see: How To Approach Beautiful Foreign Women In Public Overseas
Western Men Are A Catch Overseas
As a Western man, you’ll quickly realize that you are indeed a coveted presence in many foreign countries. In places like Thailand, the Philippines, Cambodia, Colombia, Brazil, Poland, and the Dominican Republic, my experiences have been overwhelmingly positive. I often felt like a catch, which naturally make PUA tactics like approaching and having instant dates more effective and receptive from foreign women.
The sheer numbers game is also in your favor. There are fewer Western men in these countries compared to the local population of single women. This imbalance works to your advantage because you stand out more and generate higher interest levels among the local women. The exotic allure you bring to the table can make the whole idea of pickup relatively easier and more enjoyable.
Also see: 10 Great Countries Every Pick-Up Artist (PUAs) Should Visit
Rejections Are Softer Overseas
Rejection is an inevitable part of any pickup strategy. While not every woman you approach will be interested, the good news is that rejections overseas are generally much kinder and more respectful. In my home country of the United States, I’ve experienced brutal and often rude rejections when making approaches, sometimes even leading to public embarrassment.
However, in Southeastern Asia and Latin America, the culture is typically more polite and respectful. Women tend to give you a courteous and gentle decline, even if they are not interested. This makes the entire experience less painful and encourages you to keep trying without feeling demoralized. It’s important to thank them and move on; your next interaction might just be the one that works out! Also, learn why you shouldn’t use pickup lines overseas and, instead, focus on properly getting a woman’s attention using indicators of interest.
*A side note on my experiences approaching women in Eastern Europe: Although I’ve found that Asian and Latin American countries tend to give rejections that are softer, I found women in Eastern Europe, like Poland and Hungary, for example, to be more direct and straightforward. I remember approaching a woman in Krakow, Poland and she gave me a very stern “NO” before walking away. Understand that these are cultural differences and do not take them personally.
Also see: Is Daygame or Nightgame Better To Meet Women Overseas?
Shopping Malls Are Bustling Overseas
One significant difference between non-Western countries, like Cambodia, Colombia, Thailand, etc., and Western countries, like the United States, Canada, the UK, and Australia, is the continued popularity of shopping malls. In the U.S., the rise of online shopping has led to the decline of the mall culture that was once so prominent when I grew up in the 1990s and 2000s. Amazon and other online retailers have made it so convenient to shop from home that many people, including women, don’t feel the need to venture out into public anymore.
In contrast, shopping malls in many parts of the world that I’ve visited are still thriving hubs of activity. They remain popular hangouts for both the local population and tourists. In countries I’ve visited, malls are often the best place to meet beautiful women, initiate conversations, and schedule first dates. Malls are bustling with life, and this environment makes them ideal spots for practicing PUA techniques.
I personally make it a point to book my housing accommodation near malls for convenience. First dates at a mall can be less intimidating and more engaging due to the numerous activities you can do together. Whether it’s grabbing coffee, eating at a food court, or browsing stores, these venues offer a relaxed setting that can make your interactions more natural and enjoyable.
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By integrating PUA strategies into your dating methods overseas, your chances of success in finding a romantic partner significantly increase. Essentially, I’ve found them to be a lot more effective in foreign countries than in my home country of the United States.