I was utterly shocked when I learned that approximately 80% of our communication comes from non-verbal cues, leaving only 20% to verbal spoken words. The non-verbal realm of body language – eye movements, gestures, and posture – speaks volumes more than any word could. Therefore, if you’re looking to make a lasting impression when meeting women, understanding and mastering these unspoken signals is key.
In this article, as an international dating expert who’s dated in nearly 30 countries, I’ll offer my keen insight into mastering body language when meeting women, regardless of what continent you are on. We’ll explore the most effective body language cues to elevate your interactions that lead to attraction from the opposite sex.
From the subtle art of maintaining eye contact and the power of a warm smile to mastering the confident posture and interpreting a woman’s non-verbal signals, you’ll learn how to communicate your interest and intentions without saying a word. By employing simple gestures like winking, waving, or using playful cues, you can greatly enhance your ability to connect.
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Eye Contact and Smiling
You may think that smiling and eye contact are obvious. But it’s the simplest and most effective body language cues are often the ones most frequently overlooked. They are paramount when meeting women. Your eyes and smile are your most powerful tools; they can capture attention and express a multitude of emotions without uttering a single word. When you lock eyes with a woman, it signals interest and engagement. Paired with a genuine smile, it does wonders—it becomes an irresistible combination that conveys friendliness, warmth, and confidence.
While I often use my favorite international dating apps to meet women while I’m traveling, my favorite method is approaching them in public. Further, my favorite method of meeting women in public is the indicators of interest method – approaching women who give subtle indicators like eye contact, smiling, and body language cues.
Therefore, establishing eye contact with a woman is the first and most crucial step of successful non-verbal cues. Try to hold it as long as possible; let her be the one to look away first. Often times, as soon as I establish eye contact, even if for a millisecond, I will launch into a smile that shows that my eye contact with her was not an accident and that I have the confidence to hold it past the phase of awkwardness. If she reciprocates my smile with a smile from herself, this is a great sign to go in for the approach. Don’t hesitate.
Smiling is so important to me that I even take it further into online dating. I don’t even go out with women who don’t smile in their online dating profile pictures because of numerous poor past experiences. Anecdotally, I’ve noticed that nice, friendly women will smile in their photos, whereas if a woman doesn’t smile, you often get the same thing in person – an unfriendly woman.
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Correct Posture
Posture speaks volumes about confidence and self-assurance. When approaching women, a straight, aligned posture with shoulders back and chest slightly outwards can be incredibly attractive. It exudes confidence and makes you appear more approachable.
The best mind trick to focus on when trying to improve your posture is to imagine your chest being pulled straight upward by a string. With your chest out and shoulders pulled back, imagine the string is in the center of your chest and goes directly to the ceiling. This will create a ripple effect on improving your posture, causing your neck, back, and going down to your feet. I first learned this trick from Tony Robbins, the famous self-improvement guru who has changed the lives of millions of people, including myself.
If you naturally have a slouched posture, fear not—there are other simple exercises to help correct this. Consider incorporating stretches and exercises like hanging from a bar into your daily routine; they’ll aid in maintaining a healthier stance. Paying attention to your posture not only enhances attractiveness but can also significantly impact the way you perceive yourself.
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Pay Attention To Women’s Body Language
Just as your body language is crucial, so is paying attention to the non-verbal cues women provide in response. Recognizing and interpreting these signals can help you gauge interest and adjust your approach accordingly.
Certain gestures, such as crossed arms or avoiding eye contact, may indicate discomfort or disinterest. It’s important to be respectful and considerate in such instances, potentially choosing to avoid or exit the interaction gracefully. If a woman avoids eye contact purposefully or doesn’t return your smile with a smile from herself, I’ve found that your chances of a successful approach are slim to none.
Conversely, positive signals, like playing with hair or stealing multiple glances in your direction, often indicate interest. There are other signals, too, like a woman putting herself in your proximity when there is space to stand or sit farther away. This may indicate that she is allowing you to start a conversation. And remember, most women will not make the first move. Men should bear the responsibility of facing and handling rejection. Being attuned to these subtle hints can guide your interactions and help foster a more meaningful connection.
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Show Confidence Using Silly Body Language Cues
Confidence is attractive, and your body language can effectively communicate this trait. Simple gestures such as winks, thumbs up, or a friendly wave demonstrate confidence and approachability. It’s important, however, to use these gestures appropriately and sparingly to ensure they come across as genuine rather than over-the-top.
For those moments when you want to add a playful touch to your interactions, consider using a fun peek-a-boo gesture with your hands or forming a heart shape as a light-hearted signal of interest. Although they may seem silly, I use them frequently as they show confidence, authenticity, and playfulness and clearly show that you are attracted to her.
By understanding and implementing these body language techniques, you’ll unlock a world of opportunities to connect with women on a deeper level. Embrace the power of non-verbal communication, and let it complement your words as you embark on your journey of discovering new cultures and fostering meaningful relationships.